I heard it again this week. “You’re too nice.”
When people tell me this, I want to know with what am I being measured? What comparable memory was exhumed by my action and how did it differ for this person?
I was taught to be nice; treat others the way I want to be treated. My mom ALWAYS told me to, “Kill’em with kindness.” I am neither a weak person, nor am I a push over. I can be mean too, and I often regret those times. All-in-all, my aim is to be nice.
There is a “be nice.” campaign going on in schools created by mental health professionals. This campaign educates children that being nice is a healthier way to live. They empower schools to add this to their curriculum to combat bullies and decrease the rising number of young people committing suicide.
I remember the people who have hurt me. My self image depleted each time hurtful things were done to me or said about me. My first reaction wasn’t always to be nice or to kill’em with kindness because I am human. I have a mind that hits replay and a heart that gets crushed.
I have learned to take the pain of a hurtful situation and ask God for His strength and also to ask Him what I need to learn…from His perspective.
The biggest take away is knowing how horrible I felt by someone not being nice to me. God granted me the ability first to forgive and second to move on. I especially learned not to inflict this same pain on others. He told me, “Be nice”.
My mission for you today, if you so choose:
How can you be nice to others?
Who can you kill with kindness?
Let me be the first to say, “You’re too nice”.
Colossians 3:12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.